riddle me this
When a marriage fails in contemporary Christian circles, the woman often gets the blame: usurping the husband's authority, not being submissive enough, reversing the roles in the marriage, WHATEVER.
Meanwhile, these same people teach that the husband is the one who is to rule over the family.
How is it that the woman has absolutely no say in her marriage, yet everything is her fault anyway? How is it that the husband is the one who supposedly rules, yet the success/failure of the marriage rests on the wife's shoulders?
~*~ Jennifer ~*~ wrote,
When you find the book that says, “Men — here is how you are to lead your family, and if you do it wrong you are sinning.” I’ll buy it.
I’ve got 4,592 of those books that say, “Women — you are to be submissive no matter what, and if you aren’t you are sinning” books on my shelf right now.
Acutally — i’m kidding… I gave all my “Women – woe is the” books away on Paper Back Swap. LOL I’m done with reading marriage books.
So — are you trying to tell us something?
Link | October 30th, 2008 at 11:45 am
razorbackmama wrote,
Wise move, Jennifer! Just stick with the Bible rather than a ton of books that tell you what the Bible REALLY says, and you’ll be doing great!
This was all just an observance based on stuff I am continually seeing.
Link | October 30th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Julie in Ohio wrote,
Because the conservative “experts” want to have their cake and eat it too.
Talk about illogical.
Link | October 30th, 2008 at 5:36 pm
Ron wrote,
Great rhetorical question. Definitely makes its point
Link | October 30th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
Lawanda wrote,
I don’t see that around here much, truthfully. But I tell ya what. When a marriage goes wrong, there is rarely a truly “innocent” party. IMO.
Link | October 30th, 2008 at 6:54 pm
Barbara wrote,
complete and total intenet phenon with pocket of that weirdness in real life in certain areas
RARELY in person, have i ever witnessed that attitude but it’s ALL.OVER.THE.INTERNET
Link | October 31st, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Dawn wrote,
I’m not sure if there is never an innocent party. People make choices. You cannot blame someone else for your choices. You have to take responsibility for them. I think a lot of women blame themselves (and it does seem that there is this HUGE internet world that believes this) b/c they weren’t this or that or whatever. But in truth, in the end, the man is ultimately responsible. God will hold him accountable. Period.
Link | October 31st, 2008 at 7:03 pm
Zan wrote,
“When you find the book that says, “Men — here is how you are to lead your family, and if you do it wrong you are sinning.” I’ll buy it. ”
You don’t see books like that because no one would read it. Books that criticize men don’t sell well. Women are their own worst enemy and also think they can control everything. So, if you tell them that they can be the primary ones to positively affect their marriage, than they will do anything to do that, including reading every stupid book out there.
Another thing, men are usually too busy to read self help books. My husband sure doesn’t. If I bought him a “how to be a better husband father book” he would be insulted and very hurt.
-Zan
Link | November 5th, 2008 at 10:15 am
jenn wrote,
hey keer, great question. i’m so thankful my hubby is my hubby!
i tagged you on my blog in a creative meme.
Link | November 6th, 2008 at 9:45 am