Since I'm somewhat of a prude and chapter 16 is about s*x, I'm only going to touch on a few points. ;-)

First of all, while I know that Mrs. Pearl isn't real keen on people going back to the Greek translations, I did anyway. Titus 2:4, translated in English says, "to love their husbands." The word translated "love" in this phrase is Philandros, which is essentially a compound word from Philos (friend, to be friendly to one, wish him well, he who associates familiarly with one, a companion) and Aner (husband). So the word for "love" has a slightly different connotation in this passage than Mrs. Pearl says it does (page 164):

No woman really loves her husband if she does not seek to please him in this most important area. If you are not interested in s*x, then at least be interested in him enough to give him good s*x. If you are not loving your man, you are in danger of blaspheming the word of God - "to love their husbands." The Bible says, "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin" (James 4:17). Hopefully you just didn't realize that your lack of s*xual interest in your husband was sin, but now you know.

However, I guess if she didn't say that the word "love" in this passage was referring specifically to s*x, she wouldn't be able to cover this topic in this chapter, would she? :-P

Page 163:

When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him. When a woman just "allows, cooperates, and tolerates," it leaves a man feeling sick at heart. If, to a man, s*x was just c*pulation, he would make his deposit and be satisfied, but to him it is intimacy, a merging of spirits, a way of saying, "I love you...I need you...I like you." A man's most basic needs are warm s*xual love, approval, and admiration. For his wife to be willing but indifferent, speaks of neither s*x nor love.

From what I understand, Shaunti Feldhahn's book, For Women Only expresses the same sentiment. Husbands would just about rather not have s*x at all than for their wives to just "put up with" s*x. They want their wives to participate and enjoy it. They don't really enjoy it unless they know their wives do too.

However, Mrs. Pearl doesn't leave much room for some sort of physical condition or emotional trauma that might cause problems in this area. Page 163:

There are a multitude of excuses women use to explain why they would "rather not" or why they "cannot respond" s*xually. I believe I have heard them all. Her husband knows in his spirit that all her excuses are just that: excuses for not wanting him.

Page 170:

Don't talk to me about menopause; I know all about menopause, and it is a lame excuse. Don't talk to me about how uncomfortable or painful it is for you. Do you think your body is special and has special needs? Do you know who created you, and do you know he is the same God who expects you to freely give s*x to your husband? Stop the excuses! Determine to find a way past your "excuses," and provide the pleasure your husband wants only from you.

Page 175:

Traits of a Wife Who is in Danger of Blaspheming the Word of God
*snip*
Excuses her lack of wanting to satisfy him s*xually on the grounds that ___________. (You fill in the blank. The "Excuses List" can be very long.)

I TOTALLY understand that some women are perfectly fine without s*x, and so they DO make lots of excuses as to why "not tonight." The old "I have a headache" line is a line because of that attitude! But Mrs. Pearl isn't referring to just those reasons - she is referring to anything that would cause a woman to say "not tonight." (I could read more into this paragraph and say that she's not saying that, but I'm taking her words as she stated them and will not assume something that she didn't write.) Got some sort of a physical problem as a result of a childbirth complication? Had to have surgery? Are you on some sort of medication that would affect this area of your life? Have you experienced some sort of trauma in your life like m*lestation, r*pe, etc.? Tough. You'd better suck it up, give your husband the pleasure he needs, and oh by the way, enjoy it too. If you don't you're blaspheming God's Word.

*sigh*

Page 169:

For a woman, s*xual expression starts in her mind and heart. Love is giving up your center, your self-interest. It is choosing another's needs above your own. A woman chooses to be interested or not interested in her husband's needs. *snip* She need not wait until she is stimulated to desire er*ticism; she need only seek to fulfill her husband's need. I have a tip for you: when you make your husband's needs central, you will get turned on to the experience and enjoy it yourself.

I have heard this from other sources as well. It's a good swift kick in the pants for women who are waiting to be "in the mood."

Mrs. Pearl takes an interesting turn, however. Page 170:

Hormones respond to stimuli. You remember the story of Ruth? She gave her baby to old Naomi to nurse. It is a fact that an old woman who has not had a baby in twenty or more years can produce milk in her breasts and be able to nurse a baby. It just takes the physical stimulation of the baby attempting to nurse to provoke her glands into producing milk.

Now, I'm not disagreeing completely with her. I have talked with women who have nursed their adopted babies. I have even seen an article where a MAN nursed his daughter after his wife died suddenly. (In that situation, it was solely for comfort rather than much nourishment!) However, this verse (Ruth 4:16) is not referring to that. Since Mrs. Pearl is solely relying on the KJV, which says "nurse," I'm sure that's where the problem lies. The Hebrew word used in this verse is 'aman, which means "to support, confirm, be faithful." There is an entirely different word in the Hebrew referring to breastfeeding: yanaq. That word is NOT used here, so no, Naomi did not take Obed and breastfeed him.

I think America is the only place where "nurse" means "to breastfeed" anyway. I've heard from moms (or I guess it would be mums, wouldn't it LOL) in Great Britain, Australia, or New Zealand, and the word "nurse" there means "to cuddle, care for, rock, etc." After I had my 4th baby, one of my night nurses in the hospital was British. I was nursing (breastfeeding) him, and she asked, "Oh, did you feed your other children too?" I'd never heard that before, and I thought, no, I let them starve LOL! But as I later learned, only a lactating mother can "feed" her baby. But anyone can "nurse" him.

So yes, I agree that hormones respond to stimuli. But I strongly disagree with her "Scriptural support" for the statement.

Mrs. Pearl does briefly discuss an*l s*x and why a wife should decline to participate if her husband wants to do this. She also discusses what to do if your husband ever molests your child. It's good to know that in SOME (albeit very extreme) situations even Mrs. Pearl says it's OK to not submit. I'm not sure I agree with what she says on these two subjects, but at least she doesn't say that women just need to stay quiet and let their husbands do whatever they want.

As I said, I'm not going to get into the "nitty gritty" of this chapter because, to be honest, it was quite embarrassing to read. I don't WANT to read how Mr. Pearl thinks that Mrs. Pearl is a "mighty fine minister." (Some women do find this style of writing refreshing, which is fine and is just a different of opinion. I don't.) The basics of the chapter (men NEED their wives in this way) were good. The extras (excuses are not allowed) were bad.